Life Architects
Sometimes the picture of what we thought our life would look like and what it actually is could not be more different. The truth is life happens. People change and some refuse to. Sickness happens, tragedies happen. Finances get messy. Work becomes overwhelming. We are force fed the importance of having a healthy work/life balance, yet society demands more and more of our time. Time spent away from our loved ones. Time spent from doing the things we love and find fulfilment in. While we do not have a say in what tomorrow might bring. We do have a duty and responsibility to define what we will be investing our energy in today. We do have a duty to be intentional with the time we spend right here, right now.
If our lives are not what we envisioned them to be, build something new! Grieve the picture you had in your head and get to work building something new. Often, we spend more time and effort thinking about unrealistic situations and miss the opportunity to be the architect of a new project. It can be something as simple as finding a new way of rearranging your fridge because you are tired of jamming things in to make them fit. Or it can be as complex as choosing a new way of celebrating holidays. Traditions are important and valuable, but they are not the only way to do things. We can create new traditions that have some elements of the ones passed down to us and still make it our own. Another example that comes to mind is the arrival of children. Sometimes new parents are obsessed with replicating what their relationship was like before kids to their life after kids. Your life changes when you become a parent, The beautiful thing is that you get to decide what kind of relationship you want to have with your significant other as you share this parental responsibility. Maybe you can’t go to sleep and wake up whenever you want to. Or you can’t travel as much as you used to. Maybe you don’t have as much free time. However, you can be intentional with designating a period of time every week for just the two of you. You can choose to say no to anything that compromises the little time you have to spend with your partner/spouse.
Rather than staying fixated on what used to be, re-direct that energy and time into creating something new! And sure, you may not be content with the first structure, and may even be tempted to destroy it and start over. Please remember YOU are the architect. The blueprint lies in YOUR hands! Build wisely!
My choice of song because I love to stay on theme and this song will always remind me of good moments of my childhood. In particular, the ones where I would raid the goodie bags my older sister would get from her teammates in soccer.
